One thing I talk about a lot with the hubby is how to make our lives easier. We’re very, very good at making things harder than they have to be for a multitude of reasons. Take this weekend for example. We did a long weekend away in the Blue Ridge Mountains outside of Charlottesville, VA. We take the furbaby trio with us whenever we can, and we’ve found a great hotel that allows multiple pooches for next to nothing. But they need everything – food, meds, beds, blankets, crates. It takes longer to pack and then unpack their stuff by far. And just like kids, they don’t always act right when away from home. They are curious, and it takes them some time to settle down. Even though they always act like this, we expect they will be perfect dogs every time we travel. But we stress ourselves out by rushing to get somewhere, rushing to get unpacked and then rushing to get where ever we need to be. We end up exhausted, frustrated and mad at each other for no good reason.
When I came across this article on Facebook, I saw a lot of us in it. Maybe you’ll see a little of you, too. Some examples that really stood out to me:
1. You ascribe intent. How many times do you come up with some story in your head as to why someone did something to you or acted a certain way with you? You ascribe intent to an action that more than likely had nothing to do with you.
2. You fast forward to apocalypse. In high school I used to tell myself I did really bad on every test so I’d be pleasantly surprised with the outcome. I’d have myself so worked up, only to get back a great grade. My husband does this too. He thinks of the absolute worst scenario so he’s pleasantly surprised at the result. I’ve realized if you have the time to come up with these worst-case scenarios, you really need to find something constructive to do with your time.
3. You have unrealistic or uncommunicated expectations. This is my absolute favorite. You expect a certain person to act a certain way. You expect someone to read your mind when you’ve never communicated what you want to them. This is the root of so many problems, I can’t even begin to tell you. It would take all day and 298439043 blog posts. Lower your expectations. In fact, don’t have any! Minimize expectations. Maximize Joy.
Take a read and let me know what you think. I’m sure there’s many more that could be added to this list. Life doesn’t have to be so hard. It’s supposed to be fun. Make it easy on yourself so you’re better off to handle the hard times when they come.
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