If you missed my post from Tuesday, I threw out a huge goal for my life. Huge goals are good. But you know what, small goals are good too. Sometimes starting small is all it takes to get things back on track. So this year, I’ve set a few small goals for myself to work on. To you, these might seem super easy peasy. For me, a few of them are difficult. I’m kinda lazy and I tend to procrastinate, doing things when I feel like it. After a long work day and a workout, I want to sit my ass on the couch and not even think about the next day. I guess that’s how I “veg” and mentally prepare for each week day. While this behavior is in enjoyable in the moment, it’s really not doing me any favors. So in the efforts to bring some sort of routine to my life, here’s my list:
1. Floss every evening. I’m a terrible flosser. I don’t even try to scam the dentist anymore when I go for my appointments. Nope, didn’t floss. Yep, you can tell. Why would I lie to you? My husband is a religious flosser, so much so that sometimes I want to take that string of floss and…well..let’s not go there right now. Why don’t I floss? Pure and utter laziness. So far this week I’m two for three. I’ll take it.
2. Get ready for bed well before bedtime. This corresponds to the above. When we go upstairs for bed around 9:00, 9:30, I’ll lay on the bed, snuggle the pups, basically do anything BUT get ready for bed. And then maybe 30 minutes later, I’ll drag myself in the bathroom to get ready. And then I realize my eyebrows look awful, I need this 10 minute mask, I have to check Instagram while I brush my teeth (which takes much longer than the electric toothbrush cycle of course)…you get the picture. 30, sometimes 45 minutes later I’m in bed because I had to play around. Ridiculous. The MIL got me a Fitbit for Christmas, which I love. But I love love the silent timers you can set as subtle reminders to do things. Right now I set a reminder for 7:00 PM just to let me know “Hey, it’s getting to be that time”. Then at 7:30 PM, I have another silent alarm. This is my “Get your ass off of the couch and go get ready for bed” alarm. Even if I don’t want to, I get up there and get ready. It’s been working out great!
3. Dog walks after dinner. One of my favorite things about…wait for it…Paris! (you knew it was coming) was all of the walking, especially the walking after dinner. I try to eat lighter at dinner since the Fitbit has also been telling me I don’t sleep, like, at all (another story for later), but I still sometimes feel so blah after eating. Getting out to walk around the block with the pups is the best after dinner medicine…for all of us. They are happy to be out and about. I’m happy because I’m racking up steps and getting some exercise. Truth be told, I don’t know where you’re reading from, but it’s COLD in DC. Hopefully it’s warmer where you are. But we’ve failed at this goal all week. I prefer cold weather, but negative wind chills are a little too cold for me. And the pups, well, they HATE the cold. They had to wear the plastic balloon booties this morning just to keep their paws warm! We’ll work at this one when and if the temps start rising!
4. Morning meditation. When you don’t do what makes your heart go pitter-patter 5 days a week, sometimes getting out of bed and putting yourself in the right mindset for the day can be difficult. I am a product of my moods (See #5). And if I had a bad day on Monday, getting up for work on Tuesday is really the last thing I want to do. I’ll normally start out that day with a lot of negativity, and it just snowballs. Meditation doesn’t have to be a crossed legged, OM chanting, hour long “thing”. It can be anything that brings you peace, and you can really do it anywhere. Even five minutes of mindfulness can turn your day around. The plan is to sit calmly for five minutes in the morning before I get ready, and let the thoughts of the day drift in and out. I’m really good at attaching to thoughts and building a whole story out of them, getting myself spun up about something usually for nothing. With this five minutes it’s more about letting go and NOT thinking.
5. Stop letting my mood direct my actions. This…this is my Achilles heel. If I’m in a good mood, sure I’ll wash the dishes, run the sweeper, take out the trash, get a good workout in. If I’m in a bad mood, the dishes sit, the sweeper sits, the trash sits, I sit on the couch and lick pickle chip seasoning off my fingers. You get the picture. I am driven by my moods. And I have moods. And sometimes they change without much warning. I don’t want to be like this anymore. It’s quite destructive. I’ve been doing really well all week. If I don’t “feel” like doing something, I’ve been using self talk to get myself through it. And once I’m washing the dishes, I’m fine. It’s the just starting of things I have problems with.
So we’ll see how it goes. I feel sorta better about putting these goals out there. Now I have a record of what I’m trying to accomplish. It feels good.
Have you set any large goals for 2015? How about small goals? Any little things you are working on improving? I swear getting past the little things leaves more room for the big things. And I’m gonna need some major room for mine.